After a breakup you can have feelings of profound sadness along with anger, resentment and frustration as you try and navigate the breakup process. In this episode I will offer 3 practical ways you can put in place so that you can pick your self up after your breakup and begin to feel happiness and joy again.
In this episode I ask a number of questions so you can have some clarity whether you are over or not quite over your breakup. There are no right or wrong answers, its not a test, there is no judgement. It’s a matter of acknowledging where you are right now and gaining an understanding of what you need to work on, so that you can truly say you are over your breakup.
Finding the right lawyer can be the key to your sanity when you are navigating the maze that is the legal process after your breakup? Annalee Madssen from Feeney Family law helps to take the mystery out of choosing a lawyer. She explains what to look for, what to expect and how to hire the right person for you and your case.
The pain can seem so real and intense both on a physical and emotional level after your breakup. Your life is uncertain now, and you worry about what your life is going to look like. The stress can leave you feeling exhausted and shattered. However you can bring enjoyment back into your life and in this episode we explore a number of ways to do this.
Kim’s husband thought as the breadwinner in the family this equated to making all the decisions. But the betrayal of her close friend, the one she was confiding in shook her more than the end of her marriage, as she found out through a Facebook message that she was living with her ex-husband. Instead of giving her ex-husband and her ex-friend the power to keep her in a place of hurt she focused on her self, her health, her son and her business.
Kate was blindsided by her husband when he came home and stated that the marriage was over. As she processed her feelings of shock and disbelief she decided to suppress all her emotions, put on a hard exterior only to have a breakdown 18 months latter. Kate soon learnt her husband’s long time affair was not her fault, she was not stupid for not seeing the signs, and it was ok to seek professional help and support from family and friends.
It can be tough to accept that your relationship is over and accept that someone you once loved doesn’t want to be with you anymore. It’s hard living with the rejection and it’s difficult to move on after a breakup. In this podcast I talk about how it’s not your entire fault, you have to let them leave and know that you are a worthy person.
The reality of her husband’s affairs did not hit Carmel until she had separated from her husband. Looking back the verbal, emotional and sometimes physically abuse had taken its toll on her self-esteem and self worth. She was afraid of this man and did everything he demanded to keep the peace for her girl’s sake. With the help of family and friends, Carmel was able to get through her breakup and now wakes up each day with peace of mind and a knowing that she is a good person
After separating and getting back together during her six-year relationship, Julie developed an awareness of what she did and didn’t want in her life. This stopped the cycle of drama, trauma, pain and suffering. She realized that having choices and seeing that different possibilities are available, and she gained a deeper understanding of what was going to work for her in all aspects of her life.
After overcoming the challenge of an ex-wife who would constantly harass and threaten her partner using his daughter as pawn. The end of the relationship resulted from Kathy’s partner not being able to set financial boundaries and manage his money. Through self-awareness and courage Kathy worked through her grief and her own weaknesses to become a more rounded and confident person.
Going through a breakup is no easy task. Your breakup can leave you feeling lonely, depressed and anxious about your future. You can find that you have somehow lost your sense of identity and don’t feel comfortable being alone. Breaking up is a process and it takes time to process the painful emotions, but if you put in place the 2 ways I have offered in this podcast then you will come out the other side with more self-awareness and the ability to start rebuilding your life.
Do you over analyze your problems and repay them over and over again in your mind? Are you doing this so much that you are having difficulty even making a decision? This behavior is counter productive to your well-being and can lead to increased anxiety levels, stress and worry. In this episode I share 3 ideas that you can implement into your every day life so you can lower your stress levels, become clearer in your thinking and stop you from over obsessing about every detail of your breakup.
Unfortunately the end of a breakup can start a dark and gloomy journey into the world of low self-esteem, low self worth, anxiety and depression. Its time to build your self worth, be compassionate towards yourself, stop the inner critic, forgive yourself and accept what has happened. You have two options; you can keep living in the mental prison where you keep reliving past memories, holding on to hurt and resentment. Or you can choose to move forward; you can choose to change your thoughts, beliefs and actions. You can find happiness and you can move forward.
The shock of finding out her husband had an affair sent Alvia into a rollercoaster of emotions and suicidal thoughts. Over the next five years Alvia shares how she went from being a broken woman who found it too confronting to leave her 23-year marriage to a life where she now uses her experience to help other people through their journey of divorce and separation.
Alvia received a phone call one day out of the blue from a mystery man that wanted to meet with her. This man seemed to know an awful lot about her and her family and handed over an envelope that would change her life forever. Infidelity was never something that she had considered, but this information left her feeling scared, confused and physically drained. It was if she had being punched in the stomach and unable to process or decide what to do about her situation and where to go from here.
Breakups are not easy, for most it’s a major transition and life change. You are not a helpless bystander in your life. And I shared 3 tips for you to practice so that you can start your journey to move on after your breakup. Stop playing the victim, stop comparing your self to others and be true to yourself. What it all boils down to is how much do you want your own happiness? Do you want to be shackled to the past wondering what if and obsessing over little details of your relationship? Or, do you want to let go, embrace what lies ahead of you and close the door on this chapter of your life?
Mish had to deal with moving to a new country, no friends or family close by, a toddler and being seven and a half weeks pregnant when her husband came home one day and dropped a boom shell that he had found his soul mate and it wasn’t Mish. Listen to the steps Mish took to crawl out of her deep dark depression hole, her loss of identity and create the life she wanted.
Marleen shares with us her story of how the end of her relationship helped her to find her voice. She took back her power, took control over her life, rather than continually looking at her past and being the victim of it. Marleen started to pay attention to her inner voice, reconnected with her self and refocused on what really makes her happy.
Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship? Are you finding it hard to leave?Listen to EJ’s story and how she no longer ignored her intuition and the red fags that keep coming her way about the narcissistic abuse, manipulation and threats from her partner were not good for her. EJ found the inner strength to work through and heal her abandonment, rejection and unloved feelings to find her self, get the creative flow back and allow the new opportunities to flow into her life.
It’s hard and difficult but not impossible to think you have something to be grateful for when you are facing life’s challenges whilst going through a breakup. I’ll give you some tips and ideas to make this process of feeling gratitude a little bit easier during this time. And in doing so I believe you will gain massive and beneficial results as this powerful exercise forces you to count your blessings, notice the good things that are going on in your life, sometimes the things you take for granted, you acknowledge the pleasurable parts in your life, you start to appreciate everything you have as well as reflecting on what is beautiful in your life.
Interview with CEO and founder of Act 4 Tomorrow, Alvia Turney.
Breaking up can be an emotional rollercoaster; the process can leave you feeling confused and depressed. It doesn’t have to be that way and by using the services that Act 4 Tomorrow provides, will help you to move through the process with a guiding hand full of knowledge and information so that you can make the right choices for you. Alvia also gives us a sneak preview of some of the other courses that Act 4 Tomorrow offers so that you can gain clarity for your situation.
Meagan Walker shares the many benefits that a yoga practice can have on both your physical and mental health. If you are having trouble managing stress levels or sleep quality, the simple exercise of yoga empowers you to improve your mood, reduce anxiety, help you feel happier and calm your mind. At the end of the podcast Meagan guides you through a short jet effective body scan that allows the outer busyness dissolve so you can connect to how you are truly feeling.
Creating a positive vision is about exploring a greater future for you. Your way of thinking, whether it is positive or negative, is a habit, and the good news is negative habits can be changed. I will talk about how having a positive attitude and actively thinking in a positive way can have many health and life benefits.
Where do you want to go in your life? Where do you see yourself in the next three, six or twelve months from now? And how important it is to set goals, so that you can turn your ideal future into reality.
Anne Louise drifted into romance and marriage with a man that was her close friend. Her lifestyle comprised of workaholic husband, living in remote areas and a baby that arrived early in the relationship. Guilt and a sense of responsibility for everyone around her supressed her true feelings. Listen to the technique that saved her sanity and helped her on her road to recovery after her marriage breakdown.